At first glance they seem like any other happy family. They post pictures of busy mornings getting two girls and a boy ready for school and candid snapshots of Christmas activities and their daily life.
But these relaxed candids have caused an uproar on social media platforms such as Twitter and Instagram. You see, Kordale and Kaleb are in a homosexual relationship.
The dads are working professionals raising their adopted children, two daughters and a son, in a five-bedroom house situated in a middle-class Atlanta suburb. Like any other parents, they take care of all the children’s needs including taking them to school and extra-mural activities.
But the duo’s online documentation of their lives has clearly rubbed some people up the wrong way. Since they began uploading images on Instagram four months ago, the couple has been inundated with hateful comments.
But among the harsh comments, there have been many who have applauded the couple for going against stereotypical views that gay black men cannot be successful parents.
About their relationship, Kordale and Kaleb told Blog Talk Radio they were co-parenting the children with the kids’ mother. They explained that the little ones do see their biological mother, but live with their dads full time. They defended their setup at home, saying the kids are not aware they are lovers.
“There’s a room for Kordale, there’s a room for Kaleb and there’s a room for each child. The oldest child says, ‘Kaleb, you’re my daddy’s best, best, best, best friend in the whole wide world.’ I say that meaning the kids do not know we are in a relationship. We don’t portray that image in front of the kids because we don’t want to put them in the mindset of being gay and that’s what you’re going to do because we are gay.”
The duo added that they want the children to grow up to make their own decisions and choose whom they want to date with no fear of judgement or pressure to conform to any way of life. “If our daughters decided that they want to be gay when they get older, my blessings. If they want to be straight, my blessings, and the same thing with our son. We’re not pushing them to be just like us.”
The couple affirmed their commitment to one another by revealing that they are in a monogamous relationship and intend to remain so. “You should see how it’s nothing but love with our families. I don’t want to show promiscuity. I don’t want to show the negative aspect that people have – that people have about gay men or gay African American men,” said Kordale.
See comments on social media about Kordale and Kaleb’s family below.
I love the relationship Kordale & Kaleb have and the family they’ve established together; secretly I envy them ’cause they have what I want!
— Garçon Noir (@Exhibit_REY) January 15, 2014
— Lance Evans (@Free_LanceE) January 16, 2014