Remember the Creator
Mabaso says a home that has Christ as the cornerstone should be driven by the belief that is in both the husband and wife or the single mum or dad raising the children.
She says the primary caregiver needs to explain to the child that the core of our existence, where we come from and how we’re able to live as human beings is a result of God – as we’re all accountable to Him.
She says from the age of two, parents can start instilling a sense of spirituality in their kids. “The first thing is to tell the child where they come from, where you come from and make them understand that God is the author because that creates a spiritual appetite that’ll make the child want to dig and learn more,” she says.
“God being the Creator then becomes key when that truth is communicated by the parent. Once that communication has been done, it sets a foundation in the mind of the child as he or she understands that they didn’t appear out of nowhere, but were created by the Lord,” she says.
She explains that parents need to explain that although we all have our parts to play in life, ultimately, life is in God’s hands.
- For every house is built by someone, but the builder of all things is God. Hebrews 3:4
Choose to serve the Lord, everyday
Mabaso acknowledges that sometimes it’s difficult for parents to go beyond the theoretical part, because they themselves find it hard to believe the principles.
She says if you want to bring those principles into practicality, and you want to bring God into the centre of your home, then you need to teach children that there’s a language that God utilises – which is prayer and reading the word – which you need to do together as a family.
“The beautiful thing about children is that they teach you to be impeccable with your word because every time don’t do as you’ve taught them, they’ll ask: ‘But Mummy, you said God talks, so why aren’t you talking to him?'”
She says it’s incumbent upon every parent to make the principles of God practical. “They can only be made practical by you speaking, living and encouraging the child to do so as well.”
- Choose for yourselves today whom you will serv … but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord. Joshua 24:15
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Live in unity
Children need to see both parents (if they’re together) praying together – it must be a family practice. “That means we must encourage praying together – at the same time,” says Mabaso.
In instances where one of the partners isn’t as strong in implementing the principles of keeping God at the centre, Mabaso says: “The Bible commands us to become helpers towards one another – pull your partner so the children see the practice isn’t being pushed by Mummy or Daddy, but by both parents.”
She, however, adds that although the result is stronger when the practice is observed by both parents; either parent can make it his/her responsibility to instil Christ in their child’s life. “Even if the child questions why one party is doing more, or less, the bottom line is practising the principle in the presence of the child,” she says.
- If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25
Follow God’s direction
Although we think we’re capable of doing everything ourselves, there comes a time when God challenges your assumed knowledge of Him. When he challenges you, that’s when you need to go back and ask for guidance from Him, says Mabaso.
- I will meditate on Your precepts and regard Your ways… Your statutes are my songs in the house of my pilgrimage. Psalm 119:15, 54
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