Brandon Hay delivered a very powerful TedxTalk on the redefinition of fatherhood, and begins his talk by explaining his passion for this particular topic and how his experiences have shaped that passion.
About nine years ago, in 2007, Hay founded a forum for black fathers called the Black Daddies Club in what he says was a response to the lack of spaces for black men to discuss the real issues and experiences of parenting.
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Hay tells of how he was raised by a single mother and a non-consistent father figure. When he was 24 and about to become a father he was afraid that he wouldn’t be able to fill that role because he didn’t have a reference. He discovered at the same time that there were no forums or spaces in which fathers could receive any kind of support.
Black Daddies Club is working to change the image of the ‘absent black father’. In his TedxTalk, Hay gives us a breakdown of what fatherhood means today and how fathers should do things differently.
“A lot of people say that when you become a father, there’s an instinct that you get, and as a father of three and as someone who deals and works with fathers, that’s rubbish!,” Hay says. “We become better fathers by being present, seeking eldership and by seeing good fathering in action,” he explains.
Brandon Hay talks about the redefinition of fatherhood: