A new meta-analysis study conducted by Professor Jeffrey Hall, who’s an Associate Professor of Communication Studies at the University of Kansas, has suggested that a shared sense of humour in a relationship is pivotal to its success.
“It’s not that any style or sense of humour is any better or worse. What matters is that you both see quirky humour as hysterical. If you share a sense of what’s funny, it affirms you and affirms your relationship through laughter,” Hall said in a statement.
For his research, Hall did a meta-analysis, looking at 39 studies that had been done over a period of 30 years with over 15 000 participants in total.
In his results, he wrote that it didn’t really matter whether other people found you funny, as this didn’t have any type of impact on the satisfaction each person received from the relationship. However, what did matter was the humour that a couple created together.
But he does caution that there is a type of humour that could be detrimental to the relationship.
“Having an aggressive sense of humour is a bad sign for the relationship in general, but it is worse if the style of humour is used in the relationship. If you think that your partner tells mean-spirited jokes, then it’s likely you’ve seen that firsthand in your relationship,” Hall explained.
Essentially what the study is saying is that playfulness and fun is an important aspect of building not only a stronger bond in the relationship, but also in establishing relationship security.
“It’s not about being a great comedian, but finding what’s funny in the everyday and enjoying it together, whether that’s The Simpsons or repeating finny things your kids say or The New Yorker cartoons or relishing the absurdity of life. It’s most important to do it together,” he said.
Additional source: Daily Mail