This week I’m looking at transparency, which can be broken down to being clear with your partner at all time, being precise yet simple with ability to tap into your emotional intelligence in a lucid manner.

If you’re not transparent & not sharing your feelings, you will always struggle & won’t be able to form a meaningful relationships. U need to be sincere in your communication if you’re to make a relationship work. If your are in a distant relationship you should make use of technology as a window to confront issues & fix things that are uneven in your relationship, even if you stay closer to your lover but feel intimidated by them you can least try sending an e-mail or a letter stating how you feel about a certain aspect of your relationship that needs an urgent attention

I know most couples are afraid of speaking things out unless their fighting which is purely ludicrous, its never to early nor to late to make changes in your relationship if you feel that things are not going the way you intend them to, but I must stress & warn about PERFECTORY ATTITUDE it will assassinate any relationship

Lack of BALANCE affects wellness of relationship, from my previous relationship I noticed that most people I dated were bit detached, which honestly its dangerous as maybe she will decide to keep quite about a something she felt wronged on until later stages, which this did not afford me a chance to rectify the mistake I’ve made till I repeated it, even at most instance you dating someone were communication is not forthcoming on a positive level, but everything that is given attention to is negative; that becomes a bit of a problem; like if you become an accountant in the relationship auditing your girlfriends facebook status & finding wrong in it, can only escalate to 1 thing which is CONTROL ISSUES that will in turn breed jealousy, clinginess, insecurity, hurt, fear, despair, heartbrokenness, deceit, cheating & ultimately it will get you dumped.

Maybe you’re in a relationship & your partner hardly talks to you about their feelings unless its all gloomy, ominous, negative, murky & pessimistic, you then need to take a look at yourself. It might happen that your partner feels threatened by you in both good & bad ways, mind you she or he might not know that the person they spoke to about the issues you guys are experiencing in your relationship have told you about it, reassess how you treat or speak to them, mannerism which your communication is based on.
For instance I’m a strict disciplinarian, so if I will raise an issues I might be harsh & bit of a tyrant at times which will in turn rattle, shock & unnerve my partner’s ability to converse with poise at that moment, so right now what I normally do is I make sure we are all settled, the mood & the aura of the atmosphere at that time is pitch perfect maybe over lunch or glass of wine calmly I unravel my findings to them, if you think that won’t work or you try it & still it doesn’t help then I’ll suggest both of you pick a NEUTRAL person that your both trust who will act as a MEDIATOR between the 2 of you, make sure you open up to that person about whatever you want them to tell your girlfriend or boyfriend, you can carry this on until you feel that you are all ready create the transparency in your relationship.

U need to be INTERWOVEN to your partner, which simply means that you must not IGNORE the necessity of compability in the relationship. Like when you go to buy a pair of new shoes you will never pick a size that will be too small or too big with a hope that it will later fit, no that won’t work.

Think about you buying size 9 shoes whilst the perfect size for you is 10, what will happen when you force your feet in that shoe?? You get blisters, develop corns, the shoe burns your feet, your toes swallows. That whole shoes experience becomes torrid.

Maybe you decide to go for 11 instead of 10, now you have bought the shoe, u put it on and walk around in it, what automatically happens when the shoe is a size bigger?? It irritates the hell out of you, it feels like a slip on, its unstable on your feet, it misbehaves when you expect it to be flexible, it slip of when you walk up the stairs or try running you might trip over it, no matter what brand or how much of a quality is it will never last but gets irreparable damage within a short period of time.

If you bought your correct shoe size, wow it fits perfectly, your feet rejoices, you wear it with unrivaled pride, you treat & wear it right, no matter the quality or its worth you treasure it.

See even in relationship the same logic applies, don’t settle for less. only LOVE someone who is willing to love you BACK, never cry over someone who dumps you for another they’ll most likely to be back soonest after you’ve moved on with your life

A good partner is PHYSICALY ACTIVE, SPIRITUALLY BALANCED, INTELLECTUALLY HEADED, EMOTIONALLY STABLE & SOCIALLY CONNECTED (I’ll break this down next week)

Father blessed be your Holy Name, I pray that Holy Spirit enters each & every person that reads my mails weekly that you may use this words I’ve written down to impact & grow someone’s life in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. Amen

This week’s reminder:
Sometimes the voice ain’t there; but the planning is still in motion, my brother, my sister keep on praying your answer & breakthrough are on the way, remember God doesn’t have a queue but an audience so be part of it, He might just pick u & set an example with your life remember his blessings overflows & his timing is perfect.

This week’s quotable quote:
The most corrupt of people are not jailed but walking amongst us.

This week’s must read book:
Daddy, please come home by Zane Meas

This week’s must listen to album:
Freshlyground – Radio Africa

This week’s word:
Romans 12:2
“do not copy the behavior & costumes of this world, let God transform you into a NEW PERSON by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is GOOD & PLEASING & PERFECT
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